The Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the systematic denigration by one parent by the other with the intent of alienating the child against the other parent. The purpose of the alienation is usually to gain or retain custody without the involvement of the father. The alienation usually extends to the father's family and friends as well.
In my case it was the opposite. My father did everything he could to try to get me to go with him for custody (I believe because he didn't want to pay child support). My father's family even turned on him. I remained very close to my grandparents and great-grandmother, but only vaguely so with my father. To this day, he still hasn't met two of his granddaughters (and his grandson only twice), even though he makes enough money that he could drive his self up here to see them.
In southern women it's called spitefullness, and it's rampant. My mom did that a few times, but it had the opposite effect so she stopped. Atleast that's why I think she stopped.
My dad was deadbeat, he even admits it himself. He feels guilty for it, and tries to buy stuff he can't really afford to 'make up for it' and honestly, no child wants their parent's money. We want their love, that's all. And blessidly I've got it from both my parents, in their own ways, and it's unconditional (not that I'm that bad compared to other kids in my extended family...).
Honestly though, I really wish some 'mommies' would grow up and stop smearing dad. I also wish some 'daddys' would grow up and act like adults that helped bring a child into the world. The way both sets behaves are detremintal to their children (boy or girl) and they really need to recognize that.
In my case it was the opposite. My father did everything he could to try to get me to go with him for custody (I believe because he didn't want to pay child support). My father's family even turned on him. I remained very close to my grandparents and great-grandmother, but only vaguely so with my father. To this day, he still hasn't met two of his granddaughters (and his grandson only twice), even though he makes enough money that he could drive his self up here to see them.
My dad was deadbeat, he even admits it himself. He feels guilty for it, and tries to buy stuff he can't really afford to 'make up for it' and honestly, no child wants their parent's money. We want their love, that's all. And blessidly I've got it from both my parents, in their own ways, and it's unconditional (not that I'm that bad compared to other kids in my extended family...).
Honestly though, I really wish some 'mommies' would grow up and stop smearing dad. I also wish some 'daddys' would grow up and act like adults that helped bring a child into the world. The way both sets behaves are detremintal to their children (boy or girl) and they really need to recognize that.