Dean's World

Orange pineapple. Accept no substitutes.

Andrew...do you find yourself surfing with the remote, wondering if there're shows you might have missed before??

Enjoy your freedom while you have it.

I’m a tad envious.

When we’re single, we dream of being coupled.

When we’re coupled, we dream of being single.

Jaymaster:
Oh, I’ll start to enjoy being single in a bit. I’m no longer a raw wound, more of a healing one. The pain reminds me of what I had, but anytime I start to feel too sorry for myself, I dredge up memories of a fight...

All things considered, though, anyone who ends a several-year relationship and doesn’t pain and disorientation isn’t really human...

Good luck with the roommate search. I know how hard it can be to make the rent— just don't "settle" or you'll regret it. (While I have no rommate horror stories, my siblings do, including one who stole from my sister to pay for drugs! Be careful.)

When my parents divorced -- which was after my brother and I had left home -- our Dad did something our Mama would never have put up with for too long, i.e., he listened for hours to basketball on the radio. The Portlsnd, Oregon, Trailblazers were on the rise at that time. It was an exciting time. Our Mama never liked sports very much at all, with the exception of "the World Serious". Main reason for that is that, when she was growing up, there was a constant battle between her brother, who wanted to listen to sports, and her, who wanted to listen to opera.

As for single vs. married, yes, I have long dreamed of being married, but I find that less and less likely. If my brother, who is a lot better-looking and smarter and nicer than I am, isn't married by now -- we're both 50 -- I'm not holding my breath until I am. I'll enjoy the advantages of being a bachelor. If it was good enough for Nietzsche and Jesus and Jeanne d'Arc, it's good enough for me.

I understand how you feel right now Andrew. A part of you is missing. Those decisions may seem small but they are just a bit of why you feel so down. Walking in the apartment and finding her things gone, even the toothbrush she used. There are big things and the smaller but they all make you feel a real emptiness. I am sorry for that, for you.

Going to the store and buying little things at a dollar store to fill the empty places may help. As mentioned above, DREAM! New books to set on shelves that you get at the Half Price Bookstore or buy and out of print book. Put your new Dollar Store nick nacks around those books. New bedroom sheets, bedspread, and other bedroom things done, *Your Way*. My daughter is a great one for being thrifty and she introduced me to, Goodwill Industries. They are loaded down with things for the home or apartment.

It will take a bit of time and going places single to eat and movies will hurt in the beginning but if you force yourself to do those things? Who knows? Go to the big book stores and get some hot coffee and get out books that are full of Beauty and Adventure and Fancy Cars, and on and on!

Hang in there and you can see from the above that people here in Dean's World really care.

STEVEN, HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! 50 DOES NOT MEAN YOU WILL NOT MARRY!!! Your brother is the first one that you have to change YOUR MIND ABOUT! He is not YOU! A lot, lot, lot and lot lot, lot more times here in Dean's World...I mean a LOT of times, you have let those of us that have been in Dean's World for several years, AND new people, get to know you, through your deep affection for all things that are beautiful. You capture in words what so many people respect and admire about you. You remind us how imperative our past is here in the good ole' U.S.A!

One more thing Mr. Steven M. Anderson...A friend of mine is now 53 and never married until last year. She went to Max Lucado's church where I like to frequent from time to time. She went to a singles group and while there she felt real bad for this older gentleman of 58 years when he spoke. She was quite taken with him because the leader of the group told the class to pray specifically for the desires of their hearts. After class, she went up to him and asked him what he prayed for. He smailed and said, "I prayed for a puppy to care for". She smiled and said, no, why don't we go in the prayer tower and pray for a wife together because where two are together in prayer...there in the midst AM I. They prayed for one another that night.

August 15, 2005? They married ;-)

(The above is for you to Andrew!) Never give up HOPE and DREAM!!!

Chin up, Andrew.

I know that's easier said than done. But remember these two things.

At one time or another, nearly everyone goes through what you have, more or less.

And about half of all the songs ever written, are about what you are going through right now.

This too shall pass.

Roy

Steven, you too are a wonderful person. The man I mentioned above had never married either. Just follow your heartsong and get out there and go to places that you are with other believers in the way you believe. Groups are there my dear sweet man. I wish you a very Blessed Thanksgiving and of course Andrew that brought his pain to us. Through pain we find new beginings.