Admitting An Error
Michael Demmons
Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and admit you probably made a mistake. I'm doing that now. And I hope that's the end of it.
Mea Culpa, Boi From Troy.
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"I apologize for what amounted to calling Boi From Troy a liar."
From your original post:
"So I can only conclude that his intent was to lie - and hope you'd overlook it."
I'm not quite sure what you mean by, "what amounted to", since you outright said that he was a liar.
Nit, thou hast been picked.
I'm not the guy you called a liar, so I really don't care (he's perfectly capable of taking care of himself, so I'd have no place caring).
The thing is, you didn't simply apologize. You complexly apologized.
But it was a real apology, unlike the politicians' "I apologize for acting in a way which could have seemed to some like I was acting improperly."
But speaking of appearances, it is unseemly to demand that people accept your apology. Mercy (people forgiving your wrong without you having made restitution or having been punished, merely because you asked them to (i.e. apologized)) is a gift, not a right.
On a happier note, I saw someone refer to you as a conservative blogger. Is that true? I had thought, based on your posts at Dean's World (of which you have not made many), that you were Center/Center-left. What is your general position between the two extreme points of insanity called far-left and far-right?
(As far as my political philosophy goes, I am a liberal in the traditional, and correct, sense of the word.)
Apology accepted. And I apologize to you. See, I was under the impression that Gay Orbit was my own Web site and that I could use it for whatever purposes I wished. I did not consider that I should strive to ensure that the content meets the absolute rigid standard of the audience.
In the future, when I have to make an apology for something I might say, I'll be certain to make sure it gets vetted through the proper process and meets those standards you would have me meet. I will also ensure that I don't put that apology out for other people to see, on the off chance that they might feel that the apology was meant to be a public apology and not a public acknowledgement of a personal apology that it was intended to be. Obviously, I erred.
If you have any further suggestions on how I should write my own, personal blog, please let me know.
I never claimed to tell you how to run your blog or your life. Frankly, I've got enough to worry about running my own life.
On the other hand, it's rather silly to publically say things and then complain when people comment. I didn't demand that you do anything. I didn't ask you to do anything. I didn't suggest that you do anything.
The only thing that I did was comment on the nature of what you publically said. In particular, that your apology indulged in the human weakness of downplaying what you did during your apology. You in turn commented (in a sarcastic manner) that I shouldn't have pointed this out, and that I was putting my nose into business uninvited.
It would not have been very productive for me to have said something about, "if you have any other suggestions for how I should comment on someone's blog which isn't yours, please tell me." Instead, I apologized for misunderstanding; I had thought that you meant the apology to be public business. When you clarified that you didn't, only that you were giving public notice of a private event, I apologized for sticking my nose into where it didn't belong (by commenting on a subject that wasn't meant to be open for comment). I was probably overly brief in my apology, and also overly literal, but I meant it sincerely. I'm not interested in interfering in business where I'm not wanted. Everyone involved has better things to do with their time.
That was the intent when I apologized to BfT. Alas...
Then, when you realize that Chris was right, and you shouldn't have demanded he accept your apology about the apology, you should apologize again.
...uhhhh, I'm sorry. Where was I?