:( Rejected by eHarmony because I don't fit within their categories.

Met my wonderful husband on the internet.

I met my wife on the internet, sort of. About 8 years ago on a chat BBS.

I met my wonderful husband online, also - on Prodigy, about 11 years ago - we were arguing politics. I think we both changed each other's minds about some things.

Met my fiance on the Internet. Eharmony in fact.

It's not how you meet, it's who you meet.

SWM, 47, 5'7", heavyset, non-smoker, moderate drinker, Liberal Protestant cleric in rural NE Iowa, brainiac booklover, mellow dude w/a sense of humor. ISO gdlkng Christian SWF, late 30s to late 40s, easygoing and kindhearted, pref. non-smoker. To hang out together, laugh together, get off into long rambling conversations together, enjoy peace and quiet of countryside together, possible long term relationship together.

Dean, I know this ain't quite what you had in mind, but what the hey. :-)

I met my wife in a coffeehouse. All of the other mutual links between her, myself and the other 2 intermediaries were all made at that or one other coffeehouse in Tucson.

And when I was single, the likelihood of "bad sex" was lower with those I met at coffeehouses versus over BBSes/The Net or in bars. Wild drunken parties are of course each their own thing!

First sight of my punk rock girl was her storming away from the counter, headphones on, sporting velvet and doc martens.

First couple I knew in person who got hooked up on the net was in 1997 (they met in an AOL Jewish chat room).

I met my dog on-line in the "Rub-my-belly-now" chat room.

BTW is On-line spelled with a hyphen

On-line: no hyphen, On line: one word, Online?

Help! I need to write a sytle book for work and this one has me stymied.

Paul: You should register for eHarmony.com. I'll bet you five dollars you don't regret it.

Rick: Its nto hard dude!1!!

I met my wife at work where I noticed one day she was using the same dating site I was, which was very important information for me.
Actually, we never would have even considered each other if we met on-line, although I learned a few things by reading about her before our first date.

Like every women I've ever known, eHarmony rejected me. Yay.

I prefer to meet meet OTHER men's wives online.

I met my husband the old fashioned way--in a bar. Seeing as how our 22nd anniversary is this next Saturday, this was a bit before internet dating came into being. Hell, that was even before PC's...

Ahhh, I'm old!!

Another eHarmony reject.

Hmm. There seem to be a good proportion of us eHarmony misfits here. Maybe we should trade numbers and/or bodily fluids? :)

Well how about that! You recommended eHarmony and yes the questions were very long and some very intensive. I got to the end and wrote a short bio. and said how much I love nature and especially flying. I enjoyed their questions and the sincerity of it. The next day I had three men wanting to meet me and I had not downloaded a picture of me. That really made me feel good because the men had read my profile and on that alone I got the three men interested.

Later that day I received two more. Well I went online to see who they were and got to read their bio's. I was thrilled with the nice bio of two of them. They lived in my town and a pilot that is retired from the Air Force really got my attention because of his faith and reasons for trying the eHarmony. The pilot is close to my age and he retired early.

Sad part for me was when I went to send the e-mails I got to the cost for a one month or three month or year membership. I could not go any furthur at that point due to lack of funds. My medicine and things take priority now.

Paul, Dean is right about eHarmony. I felt so safe and really liked how professional they were. I was scared to mention I had Rhum. Arth. and Lupus. I told the truth that somedays I can hardly get up and go and needed my rest but that I really loved nature and out of the way little places to eat and just talk. So Paul I hope you will go through it because you could very well meet your mate. It is worth the money because I feel the matching system is terrific! Two out of the five men were really men I would have loved to meet. Oh, there were one or two that preferred to view my picture first. Oops!, I don't know how to do that yet. Geez...I still use my computer like a typewriter. My son taught me things and he was so patient with me but later when I got real ill I was away from the computer so long that I forgot so very much. IMHO if they know up front that my days are like Neil Diamond sings...Somedays are diamonds, some days are stone and had not seen me other than my honest profile, then I hope other women out there will give it a try. My daughter met her current boyfriend online and they are engaged now! Oh, and she has three children so don't even let that phase you if you think having a couple of kids will keep men away. Her boyfriend love, loves the children and has my lil' grandson in Boy Scouts. Now they work together on projects like buidling little race cars, helping the homeless and at Christmas the two of them rang the lil' bells in front of stores for the Salvation Army.

I will be able to join down the line and wrote to the company letting them know I could not budget it just now. I got a very nice note from them and I will stay on their file. OH and I did not fill out the last page for a more in depth personality profile so...go Paul!

Single white woman....50ish with blonde hair bleu sometimes green eyes. No, I spelled blue that way because I LOVE bleu cheese. (just kiddin Dean) giggle giggle.

I hope this helps somebody out there because eHarmony is well worth the fee and they do offer promotions and even some weeks free if you sign up. It is something like, pay so much and get two weeks free.

Ahh gee, Oh well someday/ but priorites first. My hands and wrist are in a brace and then surgeory in about two weeks. If all goes well I will not have to wear the braces 24/7 and will get going again.

P.S. For those that say they were rejected, I would ask to sign up again and just be totally honest. There may have been a glitch somewhere.

I don't understand what causes you guys to get rejected? Is there something about the system that I don't know about?

My hypothesis is that it's just a fancy Meyers-Briggs, and it tries to match folks who are obviously in the middle of a Meyers-Briggs category to others in the same category. Folks who straddle the margins of two or more categories end up as indeterminate, and the system errs on the side of caution rather than matching to an adjacent category.

For example, when I was in the Air Force, I took a Meyers-Briggs during a training course (the Air Force was on the Total Quality kick then), and scored INTJ, which is fairly rare. I pegged the limit as a strong Introvert (as opposed to Extrovert), and strong Thinking (as opposed to Feeling), but the Sensing vs iNtuition and the Judging vs Perceiving was close to 50-50. So I already know, depending on how I answer the questions, I might match to ISTP, ISTJ, or INTP, with probably a 50% confidence of match. The threshold for an eHarmony match is probably set to 70% confidence.

Dah...,what did you say Samuel? Yes, I am blonde and not up to date on computer lingo but really, honest, I am smart. What is INTJ, Introvert not thinking Jaded? ISTP, I Single Though Promise? INTP, I'm Nice Tough Pretty? giggle giggle

I am not the only one out there that doesn't get all the lingo. Somebody asked how you spell on line, online or what and really wanted to know.

I did not mean to infer that those that were rejected were not honest. I meant to try again with your true hopes are in a friendship or mate and just look over your profile again. It was hard for me to write out my true self in 500 words or less. I just wanted to say, I am blonde...and felt a bit funny but then just started writing and letting my inner feelings and creativity come out. I believe we are all creative in one way or the other. Just relax and realize this is not a test.

OH AND SINGLE LADIES REGARDING PAUL! He has a deep and sincere caring heart and spirit. He is very funny and will turn your dark days into bright days. I was not doing well one time and wrote to Paul. He not only wrote to me with great words of hope and inspiration, I found out later he got so concerned, and he was smart and figured out how to get a hold of one of my sons. NOW THAT LADIES IS A TRUE LOVING AND TENDER HEART!

Janelle, I apologize for being a bit obtuse. The Meyers-Briggs test (see Wikipedia entry here) is a personality classification test that attempts to classify personality tendencies along 4 axes. The first is basic social orientation: Introversion vs. Extroversion. Next is information gathering style: Sensing (or Sensory) vs. iNtuition (e.g., gut feeling). The third axis is how one processes information: Thinking (logical approach) vs. Feeling (emotional judgments). The last axis is decision-making: Judging (prefer to make a choice & move on) vs. Feeling (prefer to defer a decision to the last minute). Please read the Wikipedia entry; it explains things in much better detail than I can in this short space.

The point I was trying to make is that each axis is not a binary choice, but a continuum. Folks who fall in the happy medium along any axis can't be classified by eHarmony.

Thank you Samuel. By the way, I thought you were nice and I just didn't get it, so I goofed around with you. I found the Wikipedia site explaining the Meyers-Briggs test very interesting. I am going to take the Carl Jung test tommorrow that is on the site. I could spend hours on these subjects.

A darling husband and wife I know, travel around to many church's and conferences teaching the four personalities of people. The Sanguine, the Meloncohly. the Flagmatic and Choloric. (Think I misspelled one of them, getting tired). This couple is so funny together because of their different personalities. The wife is the one that gets in front of the audience and shares their story. My gosh, they have lost two little children and have a handicapped child and so many other tragic events have taken place in their lives. The wife, Florence Liteaur has written many inspirational books and I am grateful that we became pen pals.

I really do appreciate the time you took to answer me Samuel and I bet others will enjoy reading that site you suggested I read.

Another eHarmony reject here.

As I recall, the text of the message (after I'd spent a good half-hour going through the questionnaire - yes, I KNOW they wouldn't be able to judge me without the info, but it's a poor return on my investment in time) went something like this:

Unfortunately, we will not be able to help you further at eHarmony. Of the people who apply to us and take the survey, about twenty percent do not fit easily in one of our categories, and therefore we do not feel we can reliably find a place for you in our dating population. We want to be up front about this so that you understand why we cannot assist you further.

I was quite upset for about half a day, but then I realized I never fit in someone else's box anyway. Phbbbbt :P . Kind of a backhanded compliment, right?

Of course, I'm still single. Damn you eHarmony!!!

CS