He touched my heart. He moved me so. He e-mailed me and we discussed our lives with numerous health problems and how they were so bothersome not only to us but to those that stood by us in love and not in judgement.

He loved Susan so very much, he really really does. I say does because love does not end in a passing but goes on in life here after and into eternity.

I will miss him.

I'm sorry for your loss, Dean.

Yes, sorry to hear about your loss Dean. I remember his posts and will miss reading them.

I'm so sorry, Dean. What a shock.

He'll be missed.

Condolescences on your loss.

Yes, I remember his comments. I recall liking what he had to say.

I was wondering why you sounded sad when I called Rose a little while ago. I guess I should read your site even MORE often.

Sorry Dean. Gary was a good guy. He will be missed.

Jerry

My sympathies to Gary's family, and to his friends, including you, Dean.

Gary was one of my favorite commenters here on Dean's World. I'm going to miss reading his blunt, frank, totally honest comments. He was indeed one of the good guys.

Oh, man. I'm so sorry to hear this. God bless you and all his family and friends.

Dean there is so much passing through your life right now that is sad and as you can tell by the many readers that post you have an outstanding support of caring people all around you.

Gary Utter was a tremendous man while he was here on this earth and you know that more than most of us. Thank you for introducing this outstanding man to me and may the days ahead find you remembering him, Mr. Gary Utter the way, the only way he would want you to.

Dean...one more thing. Print all of these good wishes and read them because when you are sad, you may need them when you are somewhere and there is no computer like when you went somewhere to a wedding.

Blessings, or should I say...Look to the Birds in the Air Dean since you are a Bright, Look at Nature and find some peace and of course, look at your child, your son...Jacob, he will always cheer you. I am sad for you today, I am sad for Susan.

You are in my prayers.
Didnt really know him but I have dealt with similar losses in the past and I would not wish it upon anyone.
Godspeed to all, especially his beloved wife.

Condolences and sympathy to all who knew Gary. I did not have the pleasure but did enjoy reading his posts.

I had some fine arguments with that man on Dean's World over the past 18 months or so, and he never gave an inch. Which is proper. So I'll miss his absence. I had no idea he was in bad healh, and I guess you just don't die at 58 unless your insides have gotten screwed up.

Janelle, take some advice from an old man. Don't let so many things touch your heart. Unless you want to die disappointed.

Instead, use your mind and body to their fullest capacity and try to keep as healthy as possible.

Then turn you face into the blowing wind with your eyes wide open, and say:

"I'm alive, so damn the fates one and all. And I'm staying here until as long as I can stand on my own two feet. No committee and no so-called destiny will determine my fate. Because, like T E Lawrence told Sharif Ali, nothing is written. As long as I can wake up in the morning, I will control my life to the fullest."

Arnold Harris
Mount Horeb WI

I am truly sorry to hear of this, especially coming on top of all of the other difficulties that have occurred in the past months. My prayers are with him, his family, and his friends.

Requiem aeternam dona eis, Domine, et lux perpetua luceat eis.

I did not know him, but I know that this has been a trying time.

My condolences, Dean. I remember some of his comments in various threads; he will be sincerely missed.

In this thread I want to walk softly Arnold for Mr. Gary Utter did open his heart up to me and I did meet him in person as well not so very long ago. I love a man that loves his God, his wife, his country, his job, his cat.

He opened up to me in many ways and many people do touch me, ahh...you most certainly do Arnold Harris, you really do. I will most certainly take your most wise words to my...brain. You are the top of my list, always have been here in Dean's World AND I LET HIM KNOW IT well before anyone else sir, well before a poll was taken of favorite commentors!

Mr. Gary Utter had a beautiful tender heart and being a police officer you know many of them surely do have those great and wonderful compassionate hearts.

Thanks Arnold, for you do get my mind going each AND every time You write, I also need to use a different term when I say what I am feeling With respect.

After reading some of his guest posts, I always found myself eagerly awaiting the next one. He will be sorely missed.

My condolences Dean.

I'll miss his comments here and at a couple of other blogs he and I both read.

Condolences and prayers for Gary's family and yours.

My condolences as well, Dean. I enjoyed Gary's comments here.

Dear Dean and Rosemary:

I'm extremely sad to hear that. I know he was a good friend of yours and I enjoyed reading his comments. I know that this is a great loss to you and to his family and to all who loved him. My condolences to you. Bless you and yours.

Wow. I'm shocked.

I had been corresponding with Gary off-blog after I heard he was ill. We never agreed on much of anything but I respected him nonetheless and always wished him good luck and good health.

I am truly sorry to hear of this.

There are men,

Then there are Good men.

Needless to say the second are rarer, much and their loss is hurtfull indeed.

I worked for Gary as an assistant sysop some years ago. For all his no-nonsense demeanor online, he had the proverbial heart of gold.

Condolences to all his family and friends.

Oh honey, my condolences to you and all who loved him. Extra hugs - remember, keep taking deep breaths. Just one at a time is all that's needed.

My condolences as well, Dean and Rosemary. I did not know him, but I know it is always hard to lose a friend.

Take care, both of you.

I am so sorry to hear about Gary's passing. I know he will live on in our memories as good men always do.

Yours,
Wince

I'm sorry to hear about Gary Utter. I spent many a night reading the old Genie boards in the early 90's. He and you too, Dean, kept me entertained, challenged, and never bored.
Although I never met him face to face, I learned much.

Bill George
Nutley, NJ

He's is going to be sorely missed here in this forum. My condolences to his family and friends.

I loved that cat he drew.

I just saw a pointer to this page over on Noise Level Zero, where Gary was a regular (nay, constant) contributor to some of the noisier discussions. We're very saddened to learn of his passing.

Was Garry on GEnie? The name suddenly seems familiar. Hmm, I'm showing my age.

Yes, Gary was very active on Genie in the late '80s and early '90s. We worked there together. You'd probably know him best from GEnie from the A2, Mac, or Jerry Pournelle RTs.

Gary has also been active on BIX for many years, which I guess eventually became known as Noise Level Zero.

Gary was not only "very active" on GEnie, he was the mainstay of one of the core RTs, which was, as Dean mentioned, the Jerry Pournelle RT, not to mention his work in the Apple computing areas.

I was fortunate to work for him and Dr. Pournelle on that RT. It was a great time to be online, and Gary was always a genuine pleasure to work with. Of late, we were at the "exchange Christmas cards" state, but he was the kind of friend who you knew you could absolutely rely upon if ever you cried "help!" If he had received a nickel for every person he had helped on the Mac and Apple II Roundtables on GEnie, he would have been a millionaire many times over.

I shall miss him very much, indeed.

Could not sleep. Ahh,...do remember you all and the days of the Apple Roundtables on GEnie and the thrill you all had with your sometimes very deep conversations that went on and on what seemed to be forever. And bulletin boards, Wow, Dean, I surely remember too. What great memories all of you have.

Oh my just some more really nice thoughts for you in the coming days. My gosh the clouds have been dark. We are here,

So sorry to hear this. Gary was also active on the ALERT (A Law Enforcement RoundTable) on GEnie. That was where I met him. He was a sharp guy...I don't think anyone "won" a battle of wits with him there.

Thanks to all for your kind comments. I've lost my best friend & soulmate, and I know how many hearts he has touched, but it is so nice to actually see these comments - I will treasure them deeply...

For those that would like to send anything or if you are in the Rochester, NY area and interested in paying respects :

Leo M. Bean Funeral Home - 2771 Chili Av - Rochester, NY 14624. Calling hours this Sat the 6th - 1-4 pm... Sunday the 7th 1-4 & 7-9..Funeral at the home Monday 1 pm with interment following at Grove Place Cemetery adjacent to the funeral home. In lieu of flowers I am asking donations be sent to the Chili Fire Dept - 3231 Chili Av - Rochester, NY 14624.

Again, thank you all for your kinds words & praise - they mean the world to me. We had 28-1/2 wonderful years of marriage and I will always be grateful for his love & companionship, but also to the world he opened up to a shy naive Catholic schoolgirl who met him at the tender age of 18.

For those that truly knew him - I think he is haunting our computer system - I have been having more network problems in the past 24 hours than ever before! I'm sitting here with my laptop & our good friend Donnie Grimes is next to me with his - neither of us can stay on line for more than a couple of minutes at a time because it keeps crashing - we are convinced Gary is there somewhere hoodooing in the system.

My condolences to you.

This is a bit of a shock. I knew him mainly from tangling with him (unintentionally) in the good old days on GEnie. I never got to know him personally, and that is my loss. Your loss is far greater, for you did know him personally and well. God be with you in this time of your loss.

This is a tough time for me. I've known Gary for years (not as long as Dean, but a long time). I've worked with him online in various capacities since then, eventually buying out Syndicomm from he and Dean and starting a small online service of my own, for those of us that got displaced by all the changes on GEnie and elsewhere. None of that would have happend without Gary's urging.

He was a guy who could get things done -- whether by talking sense or, more often than not, just pushing away until you got off your lazy butt and did it. He had a way to make things happen, and a sense of humor that made you glad to know him.

I'll miss him.

I knew Gary online long before I met him in person (for the first time in Kansas City, at the mecca of the Apple II in the heat of the summer). While it seems on the outside that we had little in common, we both shared much--we loved music, we were passionate in our beliefs, we loved kids, we were outspoken. He had a sense of humor that was striking and his best trait--no matter what, he could make people laugh.

This past summer I stayed with he and Sue for a couple of days while I was travelling the continental U.S. Part of my motivation was his health, as I wanted to see him before his health got worse, but part of it was just to see him and Sue, two of the best people I know.

We then all got to spend a few more days together in Kansas City, and a night back in Rochester before I came back home.

I'll miss Gary, for everything. I already do.

I met Gary thirty some years ago, when we had both gotten out of the Army and returned to college. We became friends - if I may say so, best friends - and have remained so over the years. My family lives around Albany and Kingston, NY, but when I retired from the Navy, I moved to Rochester - 'cause Gary was here. I'll miss him.

Fair winds and following seas, shipmate!

Gary was many things to many people. He was a husband, brother, brother-in-law, uncle, nephew, friend and co-worker. He was the guy you called when you just couldn't get that damn computer to work. He was that voice over the radio late at night that helped to make sure police officers made it home safe from places that could be deadly. He was a resident of this community we call the internet.

Gary had an opinion on just about everything and was never afraid to share it with you. He had a sense of humor and way about him that was.... well ...unique. No matter how serious the subject Gary could always find humor. Gary never did anything half heartedly. He would put his heart and soul into everything he did so it came up to his standards.

He was always there to help anybody that needed assistance.

He loved Susan. He loved his family. He loved his friends. All in all Gary loved life.

Back before he became ill Gary was seemingly on the computer all the time and someone said "Gary never sleeps, he just goes off-line." Well with tears in my eyes I am sad to say that Gary has gone off line for the last time and I will miss him.

Gary was my brother. Over the last few days after thinking back on our lives together I can't rhink of a time when we didn't have a good time when we were together, even when our parents died or the first time he had heart problems and I took him to the E.D. rhere was always a lite moment when we could laugh at the situation.

I v'e loved him all of my life and will miss him terribly.

I've just returned from the funeral home after the last calling hours. I would estimate at least 500 people came to calling hours (probably more).

I knew our familly and I loved him and he had many friends, and yes Ed you may count yourself as a best friend . The outpouring of love and grief on this board and the many people I have met over the last two days is overwelming.

One of his best friends told me today that I was blessed to have him as a brother. We were all blessed.

Thank you all for you kind words and thoughts.

Jim Utter

God Bless Gary Utter. My name is bill martin, its the first time i've visited this site after hearing about comments made about our friend and my co-worker Gary. I've worked with Gary 18 yrs. From day one he was attractively peculiar with a keen sense of wit, wrapped up in a loopy charm, but when it all came to the reality of things, he cared for friends/family with his huge heart. His wife Susan will be our one connection with Gary that many many will appreciate. Gary was so full of advice. Though a mere 15 yrs older than I, his advice often reminded me of my fathers. Heartfelt, sincere, with an accurate summation of cause & circumstance. This was Garys' modus operandi. I'll always cherish the memory, and gleefully tell the tale, of the evening Gary and I sat together at work, with numerous others just beyond "earshot". Gary turns to me and says with a smile.."Billy...watch this." As he proceeded to roll up his pant leg, pull a Bic Lighter out of his pocket, and run a brief flame over the hair of his legs, an ungodly waft of burning hair 'mushroomed' into our area, and then beyond. As co-workers notstrils flared with the scent of obnoxiousness, the cry rang out "SUPERVISOR...I SMELL SOMETHING BURNING OVER HERE"...quickly the sniffing Superiors arrived into the area to "investigate" the abnormality. I'm not sure, but perhaps the local city fire dept. showed up shortly thereafter w/mechanical sniffers. Gary and I nearly wet our pants in laughter. That was Gary. Always in search of a laugh, always in search of enlightening his existence, always in search of placing a smile on anothers face, always in search of lifes basic happiness, wrapped up in a sharp wit comprised of searing intelligence, and direct verbal delivery. Thats Gary!! One of lifes friends, that doesnt just go away, but his memories and personality will somehow surface for all that knew him, from now until we all come to meet him again....and there he'll be... standing with that 'grin' on his face, I'm sure.